I’m not sure whether long distance relationships are common or not. Most people don’t think that they’re a good idea which I understand. But most people don’t think they’re a good idea because they can’t be bothered to put in the effort.
The truth is they can easily work as long as you put in time and effort just like any other relationship.
Personally, I’ve been in a long distance relationship for nearly 9 months now with my boyfriend who lives 169 miles away near the Peak District and it’s been the best time ever.
In the grand scheme, most long distance relationships don’t work because people don’t have time to see each other, or people cheat as they’re far away. I’ve gathered this as people have said to both Adam and I ‘how can you be bothered?’ or ‘what if they just cheat on you?’
So how do you do it? The most honest answer is that if the person makes you incredibly happy then it doesn’t matter if they live a million miles away not just 169. But for the purpose of tips: the relationship needs a lot of trust and good communication. It’s sad that our generation can’t seem to understand that’s all it takes.
Granted there are hard times when you might have to go weeks-months not seeing the other person and you will miss them a lot. But when you are reunited it makes the waiting worth it.
However, I’ve found that the positives of a long distance relationship out way the negatives by a mile. So some benefits of a long distance relationship are:
-You can visit they’re home and explore an area you haven’t been. I absolutely adore Sheffield and love the Peak District so much since visiting Adam. It’s my happy place and I’d actually like to live there.
-A few hours travelling doesn’t seem long anymore.
-You realise how much they mean to you when you’re a part.
-You can have your own space to do your own thing.
-You have heaps to talk about and share/show.
-Road trips become a thing and they are amazing fun.
-You get extra excited counting down a week to see them.
-Long FaceTime and phone call sessions.
And there’s many many more…
Long distance relationships work if you try with them and they can be just as good if not better than ‘normal’ relationships. You shouldn’t automatically think it can’t work just because they live further away.
Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
Thank you for reading!